power, not sex. So this little nerd goes and shoots up a couple of local sex palaces because he claims he has a sex addiction. This is about heterosexuality, nothing else. Heterosexuality is messed up right now because although straight men were able to ignore feminists somewhat in the past they can’t ignore #Metoo. But there's no point in demonising men; which is why I criticised Vivek Shraya’s book -- ‘I’m Afraid of Men.’ Sorry Vivek, but it's not about ‘men,’ it’s about the patriarchy. Men are, more often than not -- nice, stupid, smart, good, bad, sexy and sometimes they have large penises and know how to use them. That’s great. And like women, they can also be very conniving, mean, moody and very screwed up. We're all just human beings. Then there’s the patriarchy, which is an awful thing-- but men are just as much victims of the patriarchy as women. And this isn’t about letting some murderous funny-looking little incel in Atlanta off the hook. Sure —burn him at the stake, it’s a free country (except I don’t believe in capital punishment). I'm not defending him. But demonizing him won’t get to the root of the problem, which I will repeat for one final time, is the patriarchy. Since I’m a gay male I have a lot to say about that, but of course no one will listen to me because I 'm privileged because I'm male. Except I’m not. I am less privileged than a hell of a lot of other males (even though I hate this intersectional 'one-up-man-ship' game), because on the outside I look like a real big, scary man, if I manage to keep my big mouth shut (wish me luck), and that not only disappoints people, and makes them uncomfortable, but sometimes it makes them very, very angry— because a big man is not supposed to be a nelly queen. When I was younger and 6 feet, 210 pounds, straight guys would walk up to me regularly and try and get me to fight them. I would just wave them away. Can’t you see I just want to suck what you’ve got between your legs? I'm a lover, not a fighter. Now the solution to this is not male rights or male liberation, or masculinity. I’m not saying it's time to get in touch with your inner or outer manhood and head out to the woods and bond with your bros shooting poor helpless animals. No — contrary to popular opinion — I am not Jordan Peterson. I know that there is a thing called testosterone and some men -- not all -- need to be 'real men.' But Jordan Peterson is just an ordinary man, who recently went through hell apparently. (And if you read his friggin’ books you’d realize he is very stupid about some fundamental things, that he is a capitalist who believes that everyone who has money deserves to have it, because they worked hard to get it -- um, what planet are you living on, Jordan?) But his theories are popular because of the mess we have made of heterosexuality, and particularly because of the mess men are in because of #Metoo. And you might say — ‘Great! About time men were in a mess!’ But no, it’s not. That’s the toxic foundation of woke politics:'You made me suffer so I’m going to make you suffer more, because I won’t ever forget, so there!’ Such relentless revenge just causes more suffering. Anyway I am not blaming the Atlanta sex palace murders on women, or #Metoo. I blame the patriarchy. I knew I was in trouble when a little boy named Neil Manley (I’m not kidding) who lived down the road strolled up to me and socked me in the jaw for no reason when I was 9. At the time I was kind of screwing (as best I could) my best friend (named Tad) who also lived down the road, and taking the first steps toward being the closeted homosexual I would be for the first 28 years of my life. Getting socked by Neil Manley taught me I was not a man in any traditional sense, after all I used to carry my Raggedy Andy doll in my bicycle basket and wanted to take ballet and talked too much with my hands and loved my mother beyond belief and could not relate to my father — and -- the list goes on. But I still felt the pressure of the patriarchy from an early age. Thank God I became an artist and not an incel killer (but sissies aren’t too good with guns). All men are under the same pressure, not just non-men like me. Masculine heterosexual men are under pressure to be more masculine than they even want to be, to win every battle, to see who’s on top, who gets the most women -- who is most potent, who earns the most money, who is simply better than all the other men, because that’s what the patriarchy is all about. And we all know rape has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with power. The nerd who shot these sex trade workers calls himself a ‘sex addict.’ Well good luck with that buddy. I am -- if not a sex addict -- then a sexual compulsive, at least. So I know a little bit about it. If you are a male you are supposed to have lots of sex, many 'conquests' and be the ‘top of the heap,’ whether or not you're straight or gay (hence the screwed up-edness of gay male culture). It's not that I’m horny all the time -- far from it. I know this because I was in therapy with my lover and the therapist asked me ‘Do you ever find yourself having sex when you’re not horny?’ My lover was waiting patiently for an answer, because he thinks I am a sex addict (then there’s his sex life, but we won’t go into that here). And sure enough I confessed immediately: ‘Yeah, all the time!' Because I do. I do have sex regularly for reasons other than horniness — just because I’m bored and lonely mostly — but also because I want power, and I want to keep my place among the other uber males, and be the sexiest damn fag alive (a hopeless quest, of course). Men rape because of this. Like me they are not horny, they just want power. And there is enormous pressure on them to be powerful from the time they are born. I’m not saying it’s not their fault when they commit atrocities, alright? I’m saying start taking that pressure off them, and let masculinity be. Don't enforce it, or ban it, just let it be. Which isn’t easy, I know, because there are -- as you know -- not only messed up men but messed up women (i.e .Trump voters) who are afraid that if men stop being power-hungry they will stop getting erections, and stop screwing women. It’s a real mess. All I can say is thank God I’m a fag and like to suck on you-know-whats, because, when I do that it makes me forget all about power. When I’m doing that, I haven’t got much power -- except of course the power to get him, well, 'off.' I won’t use another word because, hey -- this a family blog, No, really it is. Haven't we learned -- from all this suffering-- what is the most important thing in these' trying times'? Family.
